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1 Corinthians 7 Teachings on Marriage and Singleness

1 Marriage
Now for the matters you wrote about: It is good for a man not to marry.

2 But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband.

3 The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband.

4 The wife’s body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband’s body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife.

5 Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

6 I say this as a concession, not as a command.

7 I wish that all men were as I am. But each man has his own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that.

8 Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I am.

9 But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.

10 To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband.

11 But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife.

12 To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her.

13 And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him.

14 For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy.

15 But if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace.

16 How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?

17 Nevertheless, each one should retain the place in life that the Lord assigned to him and to which God has called him. This is the rule I lay down in all the churches.

18 Was a man already circumcised when he was called? He should not become uncircumcised. Was a man uncircumcised when he was called? He should not be circumcised.

19 Circumcision is nothing and uncircumcision is nothing. Keeping God’s commands is what counts.

20 Each one should remain in the situation which he was in when God called him.

21 Were you a slave when you were called? Don’t let it trouble you—although if you can gain your freedom, do so.

22 For he who was a slave when he was called by the Lord is the Lord’s freedman; similarly, he who was a free man when he was called is Christ’s slave.

23 You were bought at a price; do not become slaves of men.

24 Brothers, each man, as responsible to God, should remain in the situation God called him to.

25 Now about virgins: I have no command from the Lord, but I give a judgment as one who by the Lord’s mercy is trustworthy.

26 Because of the present crisis, I think that it is good for you to remain as you are.

27 Are you married? Do not seek a divorce. Are you unmarried? Do not look for a wife.

28 But if you do marry, you have not sinned; and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. But those who marry will face many troubles in this life, and I want to spare you this.

29 What I mean, brothers, is that the time is short. From now on those who have wives should live as if they had none;

30 those who mourn, as if they did not; those who are happy, as if they were not; those who buy something, as if it were not theirs to keep;

31 those who use the things of the world, as if not engrossed in them. For this world in its present form is passing away.

32 I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord’s affairs—how he can please the Lord.

33 But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world—how he can please his wife—

34 and his interests are divided. An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world—how she can please her husband.

35 I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord.

36 If anyone thinks he is acting improperly toward the virgin he is engaged to, and if she is getting along in years and he feels he ought to marry, he should do as he wants. He is not sinning. They should get married.

37 But the man who has settled the matter in his own mind, who is under no compulsion but has control over his own will, and who has made up his mind not to marry the virgin—this man also does the right thing.

38 So then, he who marries the virgin does right, but he who does not marry her does even better.

39 A woman is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, but he must belong to the Lord.

40 In my judgment, she is happier if she stays as she is—and I think that I too have the Spirit of God.

Analysis of 1 Corinthians Chapter 7

1 Corinthians Chapter 7 is a rich and multifaceted passage that delves into topics of marriage, celibacy, and the Christian life. Written by Paul the Apostle, this chapter provides both practical guidance and theological principles tailored for the early Christian community in Corinth. The analysis of this chapter will be segmented into key themes and explanations to offer a comprehensive understanding of Paul’s message.

Marriage and Celibacy: Verses 1-7

Paul begins the chapter by addressing a specific question from the Corinthians about marriage and celibacy. He states:

“Now for the matters you wrote about: ‘It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.’ But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband.” (1 Corinthians 7:1-2, NIV)

In these opening verses, Paul acknowledges that celibacy can be a good and desirable state. However, he also recognizes the reality and pervasiveness of sexual immorality in Corinth. Thus, he advocates for marriage as a means to promote sexual purity. Paul underscores the mutual responsibilities and rights of spouses in a marriage, emphasizing the importance of sexual relations within the marriage covenant to prevent immorality.

Paul continues with:

“The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife.” (1 Corinthians 7:3-4, NIV)

These verses highlight the mutual submission and equality within the marriage relationship. Paul emphasizes that both partners hold authority over each other’s bodies, promoting a balanced view of marital relations where both husband and wife have equal rights and responsibilities. This mutual duty helps to ensure that both partners’ needs are met, reducing the risk of temptation outside the marriage.

Additionally, Paul acknowledges the place for temporary abstinence in marriage for spiritual reasons:

“Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.” (1 Corinthians 7:5, NIV)

Here, Paul allows for periods of abstinence if agreed upon mutually, specifically for spiritual purposes such as prayer. However, he advises that these periods should be temporary to avoid giving Satan an opportunity to tempt either partner due to lack of self-control.

In verse 6, Paul clarifies that his advice is a concession, not a command:

“I say this as a concession, not as a command.” (1 Corinthians 7:6, NIV)

This indicates that Paul’s guidance on marriage and celibacy reflects his wise counsel rather than divine mandate, allowing for individual discernment in these matters.

Paul concludes this section by expressing his personal preference for celibacy:

“I wish that all of you were as I am. But each of you has your own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that.” (1 Corinthians 7:7, NIV)

He acknowledges that celibacy, like marriage, is a gift from God and recognizes that different people have different gifts. This perspective encourages respect for both married and celibate states as equally valuable in the Christian life.

Guidance for the Unmarried and Widows: Verses 8-9

Paul then addresses the unmarried and widows:

“Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.” (1 Corinthians 7:8-9, NIV)

Here, Paul recommends celibacy for the unmarried and widows, reflecting his belief in its value for Christian service. However, he also provides a pragmatic solution: if an individual cannot exercise self-control and faces strong sexual desires, it is better to marry than to struggle with unfulfilled passions. This advice emphasizes the practical aspect of maintaining moral purity within the framework that suits each individual’s circumstances.

Instructions for Married Believers: Verses 10-16

In these verses, Paul addresses married believers, starting with a command from the Lord:

“To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife.” (1 Corinthians 7:10-11, NIV)

Paul reiterates Jesus’ teaching on the permanence of marriage, encouraging spouses to remain together. Separation may occur, but reconciliation should be the goal. By prohibiting divorce, Paul underscores the sanctity and indissolubility of the marriage covenant.

He continues with instructions for believers married to unbelievers:

“To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him.” (1 Corinthians 7:12-13, NIV)

Paul encourages believers to maintain their marriages with unbelieving spouses if the spouse is willing to stay. This reflects Paul’s broader mission of extending grace and promoting peace within families, even those with mixed faiths.

The next verses elaborate on the spiritual impact of such marriages:

“For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy.” (1 Corinthians 7:14, NIV)

Paul introduces the concept of sanctification within mixed-faith marriages, suggesting that the believing spouse positively influences the spiritual state of the household. This does not mean automatic salvation for the unbelieving partner but highlights the potential for religious and moral upliftment within the family context.

However, Paul acknowledges the possibility of separation initiated by the unbelieving partner:

“But if the unbeliever leaves, let it be so. The brother or the sister is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace.” (1 Corinthians 7:15, NIV)

If the unbelieving spouse chooses to leave the marriage, the believer is not bound to the marital obligations, emphasizing that peace and freedom are paramount.

Finally, Paul concludes this section with a hopeful perspective:

“How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?” (1 Corinthians 7:16, NIV)

This underscores the potential of a believing spouse to lead the unbelieving partner to faith, encouraging perseverance and hope within the marriage relationship.

Living as One Called by God: Verses 17-24

In these verses, Paul outlines a broader principle of contentment and faithfulness to one’s calling:

“Nevertheless, each person should live as a believer in whatever situation the Lord has assigned to them, just as God has called them. This is the rule I lay down in all the churches.” (1 Corinthians 7:17, NIV)

Paul urges believers to live out their faith in their current circumstances, whether married, single, circumcised, or uncircumcised. This principle encourages contentment and faithfulness to God’s calling in various life situations.

“Was a man already circumcised when he was called? He should not become uncircumcised. Was a man uncircumcised when he was called? He should not be circumcised. Circumcision is nothing and uncircumcision is nothing. Keeping God’s commands is what counts.” (1 Corinthians 7:18-19, NIV)

Paul dismisses physical circumcision as a determinant of spiritual status. Instead, he emphasizes obedience to God’s commandments as the true marker of faith. This reflects the shift from external rituals to internal spiritual fidelity in the New Covenant.

Similarly, Paul addresses the status of slaves and freedmen:

“Each person should remain in the situation they were in when God called them. Were you a slave when you were called? Don’t let it trouble you—although if you can gain your freedom, do so. For the one who was a slave when called to faith in the Lord is the Lord’s freed person; similarly, the one who was free when called is Christ’s slave.” (1 Corinthians 7:20-22, NIV)

Paul’s advice here emphasizes spiritual freedom above social status. Even if one is a physical slave, they experience freedom in Christ. Conversely, a free person should consider themselves a servant of Christ. This perspective levels the social hierarchy within the Christian community, highlighting spiritual equality.

“You were bought at a price; do not become slaves of human beings. Brothers and sisters, each person, as responsible to God, should remain in the situation they were in when God called them.” (1 Corinthians 7:23-24, NIV)

Paul reminds the believers that they were redeemed by Christ’s sacrifice, urging them to resist becoming enslaved to worldly circumstances or human masters. Each believer is accountable to God and should seek to live faithfully within their assigned roles.

Guidance for the Unmarried and Engagement: Verses 25-38

Paul revisits the topic of marriage versus celibacy, providing specific counsel regarding virgins and engaged individuals. He begins by acknowledging the absence of direct command from the Lord:

“Now about virgins: I have no command from the Lord, but I give a judgment as one who by the Lord’s mercy is trustworthy.” (1 Corinthians 7:25, NIV)

Paul offers his inspired judgment, recognizing the unique situations of the Corinthians. He advises considering the present crisis:

“Because of the present crisis, I think that it is good for a man to remain as he is. Are you pledged to a woman? Do not seek to be released. Are you free from such a commitment? Do not look for a wife.” (1 Corinthians 7:26-27, NIV)

The “present crisis” may refer to specific socio-political troubles or eschatological expectations. Paul advises stability, encouraging people to remain in their current state, whether engaged or single.

He further explains:

“But if you do marry, you have not sinned; and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. But those who marry will face many troubles in this life, and I want to spare you this.” (1 Corinthians 7:28, NIV)

Marriage is not sinful, but Paul warns of the potential troubles and distractions it may bring, advocating celibacy for those who can embrace it without burning with passion.

“What I mean, brothers and sisters, is that the time is short. From now on those who have wives should live as if they do not; those who mourn, as if they did not; those who are happy, as if they were not; those who buy something, as if it were not theirs to keep; those who use the things of the world, as if not engrossed in them. For this world in its present form is passing away.” (1 Corinthians 7:29-31, NIV)

Paul places marriage, along with other earthly pursuits, within the context of the transient nature of this age. He calls for a detached and eternal perspective, highlighting that worldly engagements should not define a believer’s ultimate identity and focus.

Continuing his practical advice:

“I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord’s affairs—how he can please the Lord. But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world—how he can please his wife—and his interests are divided. An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world—how she can please her husband.” (1 Corinthians 7:32-34, NIV)

Paul highlights the divided interests that come with marriage. While marriage involves pleasing one’s spouse and managing household affairs, celibacy allows undivided devotion to the Lord’s service.

Paul reiterates that his advice is meant to aid their devotion, not restrict them:

“I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord.” (1 Corinthians 7:35, NIV)

This further underscores his pastoral care, aiming to promote the most effective means of serving God with undivided attention.

Regarding those engaged to be married, Paul offers nuanced counsel:

“If anyone is worried that he might not be acting honorably toward the virgin he is engaged to, and if his passions are too strong and he feels he ought to marry, he should do as he wants. He is not sinning. They should get married. But the man who has settled the matter in his own mind, who is under no compulsion but has control over his own will, and who has made up his mind not to marry the virgin—this man also does the right thing. So then, he who marries the virgin does right, but he who does not marry her does better.” (1 Corinthians 7:36-38, NIV)

Here, Paul respects individual circumstances, acknowledging that marriage is a good and honorable choice for those who cannot control their passions. However, he maintains that celibacy is an even better choice for those who can manage it, as it allows greater freedom for undivided service to the Lord.

Advice on Widows: Verses 39-40

Paul concludes this chapter with advice to widows:

“A woman is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, but he must belong to the Lord. In my judgment, she is happier if she stays as she is—and I think that I too have the Spirit of God.” (1 Corinthians 7:39-40, NIV)

Widows are free to remarry, but Paul advises that their new spouse should be a believer. He suggests, however, that a widow may find greater happiness in remaining single, reflecting his consistent advocacy for celibacy while respecting marriage.

Conclusion

1 Corinthians Chapter 7 offers invaluable insights into early Christian views on marriage, celibacy, and individual calling within the faith community. Paul’s guidance is deeply rooted in mutual respect, spiritual devotion, and practical considerations tailored to the varied circumstances of believers. His balanced approach neither denigrates marriage nor exalts celibacy to an impractical ideal but seeks to promote faithfulness to God’s calling in every aspect of life.